Working mothers often encounter the challenge of having to face the guilt of working. They are too ashamed, and guilty of the issues that emerge from the given amount of time they spend with their children whilst having job responsibilities to fulfill at the same time. To help you, we’ve come up with some ways to evade this awful sense of guilt and to deal with it positively.
1. The first, most crucial element in this area would be to not let the opinions and judgments of others affect you. Once you’re negatively influenced by ‘small talk and brutal judgment’, you automatically feel a terrible sense of guilt which could be depressing.
For instance, If you’re finding it difficult to deal with your children at an event because of being on important work-related phone call or something of the sort, and you find yourself being eye-balled, judged and stared at by the other mothers, all you have to do, is simply ignore them and have a confident attitude. In case they are your friends, it should be easier. Considering they clearly aren’t sincere else they would be supportive and understanding instead of judging you.
2. Other tactics include using the television as a free-of-charge baby sitter for your kids. It is said that children shouldn’t be allowed to watch too much television, and mothers shouldn’t ‘use’ it as an object or an excuse to distract and avoid their children in attempts of fulfilling their personal work responsibilities. But let’s admit most mother lie about how much TV they allow their children to watch. It is no crime. Just be sensible about it, and use the appropriate channel depending on how old your child is. Baby TV is excellent for children, but cartoon network and Nickelodeon aren’t harmful either. If your children are relatively older, play a non-rated DVD for them while you complete your work without feeling guilty about it.
Sometimes guilt could be an obvious warning, signaling that perhaps you should adapt change in life, and allow yourself to dispel that guilt by saving up more than you’re spending so you can soon say goodbye to your exhaustive work-life. But this isn’t the only option to evade the guilt; it is just something that could be worth entertaining depending on the intensity of the guilt.
3. An evaluation of the chief reasons to work is also an effective tool. Note down and recognize the reasons as to why you’re working in the first place. For the money and a quality life that money allows or perhaps you want to be an inspiration for your children and seek to set an example of an independent, career-oriented being? Or maybe you feel you wouldn’t be able make your children happy and be miserable and moody if you’re home all day, resulting in your kids consuming that negativity that surrounds them, emerging from your behavior and constant presence at home. Evade the guilt with assistance from acknowledging the positive side of being a workaholic.
4. The last but not the least, is to make a little extra effort and compensate for not being able to give them the attention they may be in desperate need for. Make sure to take a day off once in a while to satiate the children’s need for a family bond. Clear your schedule for the day. Examine the health, eating and sleeping patterns of your children in that time and indulge in their interests as your own interests. Let them decide what they would prefer doing that day – be it a shopping spree at the mall, a movie or the park. This way, you also get extra chances to re-examine whether you would want to continue working or doubt the choices you’ve made, allowing you to come to new decisions and evaluations.
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