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Managing emotions: To cry or not to cry in the workplace?



Women spend, on average, one year and four months of their lives in tears – that’s 12,000 hours of crying

Imagine yourself bursting out into tears in front of your supervise because of a lot of stress or mental torture being given to you by your boss! The reasons could be numerous, whatever the reason you must control your emotions as other people around may not understand what you’re going through while they will think that you are doing this as tool to gain sympathy!

In contrast, some experts like Sharlyn Lauby, an HR Consultant and president of ITM Group, Inc stressed the need for organizations to view tears in the workplace a little bit differently from the standing rule of business.

How appropriate or inappropriate is it for employees to display their emotions and cry in front of their co-workers?

  1. Not to cry: It’s an unspoken rule: No matter how unhappy you are at the office, no matter how upset you are about your pay or anything else — the one thing you must never, ever do is cry about it at work. And definitely cryin 1NOT in front of the boss.
  2. To cry? Anne Kreamer, author of Workplace, thinks that crying in the workplace is more acceptable today. In her research, 41 percent of women reported they had cried at work during the past year and 9 percent of men. The surprising finding was that crying made no difference whatsoever in terms of a person’s success; people at all levels of management reported crying on the job.
  3. Not to cry:  tears are less effective in group situations or with clients, Crying should not be used in a manipulative manner or as an automatic reaction to criticism, as it is insincere and can create discomfort and awkwardness.
  4. To cry?  Crying in a work context is sometimes appropriate, acceptable, and even, admirable….Tears–and any other authentic display of emotion–show that you’re deeply moved, which in turn moves the audience.crying 3 There are usually cases of colleagues leaving and crying as they take their leave as well as tears after a mentor passed away.
  5. Not to cry: Imagine in yourself in a position when you have cried in front of your boss on pettiest issues. As small issue for not getting promotion and the women who joined after you got her promotion. Yes women are emotional and sentimental and they may not realize when they cry. Later on, you will find your confidence to be shattered in front of your boss because breaking down in public is not professionalism.
  6.  To cry? According to Anne Kreamer, “When you feel yourself about to cry, it’s telling you something: You’re frustrated, you’re overworked, and you’re feeling undervalued, you don’t have enough resources. It’s a real tool for analysis. It can actually help you perform your work more successfully.”cryin 2
  7.  Not to cry: When women cry it reinforces the stereotype that they aren’t strong, there are other repercussions of crying at work. People will feel uncomfortable, and if others see you cry, but don’t know why, you will be susceptible to gossip.

Women must speak up and express their beliefs and emotions, but not necessarily with tears in their eyes. Actions can send stronger messages.

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